Have you ever feel like something is holding you back from doing what exactly you pictured in your mind?
I do. Most of the time.
It’s not like the Social Survival Mammoth ( a really awesome article that you must read ), but more like a mild version of it. The short version is that : it avoid hassle and try to make me take the most practical way, considering the factors. Perhaps like a bossy parrot or something?
I tend to make plans for every step of my way. And among those plans usually exists one that is more exciting than others and/or also faster to reach the goal, but with some major consequences if it’s failed.
And I avoid that kind of scenario, most of the time. I put that plan in the last possible conditions where I don’t have any other choices. The reason is simple : to avoid that major consequences. Because major consequences equals major changes. And major changes needs major adjustments. etc etc, I think you already got my point. It will be a lot of work.
That way of thinking doesn’t apply when I’m travelling (in small group) though. Since all of the major consequences usually revolves around me, I can easily adjust and make plans with most of the known factors. Then I have the confidence to do what I want to do, exactly as I imagined it to be.
But in case of an interconnected activities (work,
relationship, friendship, side project) where one tiny action can have butterfly effect to others, I unconsciously put an automatic brake for my mind and take the solution with least potentials for problem. And maybe I’ll keep doing that. It’s almost hardwired into my brain.
Then sometimes, I just wonder : did I do the right thing? make the right choices?
Let’s hope that time will answer those questions.